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     Children aged 12 through 15 often find themselves feeling as if they had no place to go. But let's just ask one question: why do teens often feel so as if nobody needed them? Why do they often dramatize and regard themselves as "unnecessary” people in our society?

      There is an opinion that they behave so just because of their awkward age and actually we shouldn’t pay attention to their endless caprices. But I disagree with it. I don’t think that in this situation we should blame only teens themselves or their age or something like this. In my opinion the root of every problem arises in the family. I don’t want to blame parents now, I just want to call your attention to the fact that it doesn’t matter what conception of a "normal” family we have now, still family are people who should always support you, whom you should trust and who are always with you. But is it really so? How often we can hear from a mother or a father of a 14-year-old teenager, "You never help us!” When they are at home, teens frequently face the common parental concerns of "All you do is sit and watch TV or listen to music" and "You don't do anything." Isn’t such a kind of treatment from the dearest people a good justification for teens to behave in a wrong way?

      I don’t want to say that teens should behave badly, miss their classes, start making friends with suspicious people and so on. I only mean that maybe if some parents stop looking for only bad in their offsprings and start noticing some good traits of their character, maybe then our "young adults” will change themselves somehow? Because this is really true that teens can be quite adequate people who perhaps just need some kind of support.

      Above all, teens want comfort. Then parents should remember that a teen's perception of comfort differs greatly from theirs. The idea of comfort may be nice furniture, a clean house, a functional kitchen, etc. But teens’ perception of comfort equates to extreme privacy. And that really irritates a lot when your mother or father tries to show her or his love and caring before your friends’ eyes. So why don’t parents want to "occupy” a neutral position and act sometimes as their children want them to?

     Teenagers today are pressured about a lot of things, and in my opinion parents should find a way how to stay strict and loving people at one and the same time.